I got permission! Unreal!

[godale03]

Holy crap!!! 10K WITH THE HONEYMOON!!!! That is cheap. Maybe I should hire you guys to come plan mine!!! Ever been to NJ? Want to?


(ever notice how we just CANNOT stay on one topic???)

I have never been to NJ... have always wanted to. It is the only state south of PA I have never been to. It was not that hard to plan a 10K wedding. We both decieded that finishing the basement was more of a priority at this point. Now don't get me wrong we are going to have a nice wedding, but we just kept it small. We still have a photographer, flowers, rehershal dinner, caterer, pastor, and even a wedding planner. We are going to head down to Nags Head and get married on the beach at sunset. We rented an 8 bedroom house on the beach for the week. (that is where 5K is going all by itself). Running away is how we were able to keep it small.... 14 people to be exact. If we had the wedding local we were looking at a guest list that toped 300 people. We are not going to have a wedding party or anything like that. We are going to do all the music ourselves with the Ipod and the Bose Doc. We both just decieded that a big stressful wedding was not for us. When we get back from the honeymoon her folks are going to throw a catered reception outside under tents on the farm. That way we can have everybody we have ever met come on out and party. I don't know some folks in our families don't understand, but they will get over it.

Anyway to answer your question... of course man I will help you out. No problem.

I don't care that we have gotten off topic.... Were all family. Besides I am sure I will get all kinds of input on what type of buggy will best suit my needs.

Take care guys.

Tom

 

[godale03]

Well at least at this point divorce is not the plan, however I don't think anybody goes into marrage to get divorced. She has been married before and the relationship ended mutually after 7 years. They got married young and they realized they were better off as friends. As far as how much it would cost to divorce...... she makes almost twice what I make and I am pulling down almost 52K a year. Not that I am bragging..... that is not a whole lot these days, but I am not complaining. She has already built the house she lives in and is still paying for it herself. It is something like 3600 square foot without the basement. I don't think she would go after me for anything if we did get divorced. I can't make her sell her house either... it is on her parents farm. Anyway... I am with Ed... she is a keeper and I do love her very much.

Anyway... enough of the divorce talk... the important thing is.... I get to get another toy! Woo Hoo!

Tom

 

[digger]

Sorry about the divorce talk bro. You know I wish you the best.
I've been thinking about marriage real hard, just haven't been able to.


Getting back on track.......
Congrats on the new buggy. I know the X-Term wasn't a lot of racer, but I figure you learned a lot with it. Maybe you could resurrect it later on and pass it down to the step-son?

 

[godale03]

Hey Digger,

No need to appologize my friend. I wasn't upset about the divorce talk. It is something you always have to be aware of. I know you guys were just joking as well as looking out for me. I appreciate the info.

I haven't gotten anything yet... the wedding comes first and then the basement. My time frame was to get something around my Bday maybe a bit sooner. The XTerm is great... and by no means am I trashing it. It will get abused as always. I was just looking into getting something a bit lighter and a bit more racey is all. Not at all bashing that XTerm. It was my first buggy and it has and will continue to serve me well without any problems. I am just a bit frustrated at the lack of hop up parts for it. If I do get the Jammin buggy.... I know there are hop ups gallore, which is half the fun. I love upgrades! So that is the big reason for wanting another buggy. The Xterm is still a great buggy. Who knows... maybe I will wait and get the XTerm 2... Take care guys.

Tom

 

[sweetdiesel]

When we get back from the honeymoon her folks are going to throw a catered reception outside under tents on the farm. That way we can have everybody we have ever met come on out and party.
Tom

Partay at Tom's place! Congratulations again on the wedding.

Have you checked out the Xray XB8?

 

[digger]

Partay at Tom's place!

Bring the RC's!!! Don't put the tents too close together. I'm thinking after a few drinks we could try jumping one. Got the new one broke in yet?









:jk:

 

[godale03]

Shoot... man anybody who wants to come is more than welcome! Serious, the more the merrier!

There is pleanty of room on the farm to make a track, it is just something that is down the list, but it is on the list.

I am almost finished the break in process. I still would like to run a few more tanks through just for good measure, but I was not able to because the weather got nasty towards the end of the week and even snowed a bit the other day. That is MD spring weather for ya! I am just waiting on a day where the temps are at least in the mid to upper 50's. I am itching to get it done though! Take care.

Hey SD I have not looked at the XRay yet. My LHS does not stock any parts for it so I am not sure. I have heard great things about it, but I have never even seen one in person.

Tom

 

[Badkitty]

i dont get typical married people. i dont have to ask for anything, nor does she.I still have my life and things to do..and she has hers. Then we have our own time. as long as we pay our own bills and half the house bills , there really is nothing to worry about.

All my friends are typical. Their wives complain or get mad if they out too late or spend money on stupid crap. I dont mean for the man to be "THE BOSS" or anything. I'm not like that, but jeez. men who say " I can't do that , she wont let me." crack that whip or what. I have a black friend who is married to a hispanic woman and i saw him at the store last night, he lives across the street from the store, and we stood in store talking for 30mins. She called his cell phone yelling " IT doesn't TAKE 30MINS TO BUY A JAR OF PICKLES. GET HOME!!" and i heard that from 4ft away. He just said , uh i gotta go. gimme a break. As long as we call each other every once in awhile, expecially if its late, to let each other know we are still alive..lol then we're good. we've been together 9yrs and married 2yr.

 

[robriguez]

BadKitty, You are one of the lucky ones then my friend.


TOM, your in MD!!!! poop thats only a 2-3 hour drive.... We gotta hang this summer at some point!!!

 

[Badkitty]

oh and our wedding cost $4500..would have cost $3500 but her dad wanted alittle more decor and invited some more people.We had 90 people show up and it over looked a beautifull lake. We were paying for it, then after his changes he decided to pay for it anyway. They could afford it. They have a 105yr old victorian, remodel 15yrs ago. They bought it for 60K back in 1980, now its worth 500k+ which is totally amazing to me. So we took some of the money we were going to use and stayed 2weeks in bodega bay over looking the ocean. it was awesome. No excitement, hardly any people. We went crab fishing and drove around alot and did alot of " OTHER " stuff too

some women can get totally nuts with weddings. My brother was going to get married last year,but his gf came from a rich family who was NOT going to pay. She wanted this huge wedding that was gonna cost $25K that HE had to pay for. She wanted to have their first kid RIGHT away and stay home and never work again. Plus she also told him that he was going to need a better job, current one paid him $4K-$6K a month consistently, cause without her working he couldnt afford the life she wanted. needless to say they are NO longer together. Of course he had SOME issues with her parents and her childhood which warranted THERAPY after their break up. Too bad too cause she was HOT!!

 

[FastEddy]

i dont get typical married people.

What is typical? That a broad stroke.....
As I read your post picking apart some of the things you feel are not right with other peoples relationship I see some what I would call not right with yours. Every relationship molds itself and takes on its own life. From the outside looking in things may look weird or different then your relationship but it works for them, or not......

From the outside looking in on your relationship, to me, it sounds like your still two separate people that happen to live together after a ceremony. I find it odd that your a married couple and still find it nessacery to split all your house bills in half and pay for your own bills. Aren’t you in this together? Normal married couples combine everything, pay the bills, and do what ever they do with what’s leftover. Don’t they? Isn’t that what normal people do?

My point being trying to say what’s normal or not normal isn’t going to get you anywhere. Comparing your relationship with others doesn’t work.

 

[godale03]

BadKitty, You are one of the lucky ones then my friend.


TOM, your in MD!!!! poop thats only a 2-3 hour drive.... We gotta hang this summer at some point!!!

Sounds good to me my friend!

Tom

 

[Plaidfish]

Badkitty, tell your friend to get some sac....no woman should speak to her man or any one likethat.....sorry but I won't date Latinas again...not being racist and I'm not opposed to friendships w/ latin women.... BTW they are some of the hottest women IMO...but the "typical" Latin culture is really possesive and women are taught early on they need to control their men....I can honestly say I've seen this first hand....I don't speak spanish but living in FL I learned to understand alot of it....when your sitting at a dinner table and your girl's parents start talking spanish in front of you asking why she LET me go out skating til 2-3 AM...WTF business is it of hers...this was an issue w/ more than one too...
Also My step mother is from PR....same thing in her family, All the women feel they need to control their men...and this way of thinking was not just observed by my in her immediate family it was AL Ltheir extended families too....every family gathering was the samething all the men would be on one side of the room bitching about how controlling their wives were.....luckily my pop has some dignity left but his line of poop tolerance is WAY LOWER than mine.......short of it, I see it as a cultural thing....ALL men & women want something from their significant other, whether it's love, money, Control, or sex....I just try and avoid the ones that re looking for the things I'm not willing to give....

 

[godale03]

What is typical? That a broad stroke.....
As I read your post picking apart some of the things you feel are not right with other peoples relationship I see some what I would call not right with yours. Every relationship molds itself and takes on its own life. From the outside looking in things may look weird or different then your relationship but it works for them, or not......

From the outside looking in on your relationship, to me, it sounds like your still two separate people that happen to live together after a ceremony. I find it odd that your a married couple and still find it nessacery to split all your house bills in half and pay for your own bills. Aren’t you in this together? Normal married couples combine everything, pay the bills, and do what ever they do with what’s leftover. Don’t they? Isn’t that what normal people do?

My point being trying to say what’s normal or not normal isn’t going to get you anywhere. Comparing your relationship with others doesn’t work.

Well put my friend...... Every relationship is different and comparing a relationship to another relationship is not fair to you, or the relationship you are comparing it to. My relationship works for me. I don't talk to my fiance' about my purchases because I need permission, but rather so she knows where the money is going. I don't always know if there is something other than bills that need to be paid, so by letting her know, I am also making sure that nothing else that may be of importance exsists. Of course I am :whip: though!, but hey there are worse things in life to be! LOL We are in this together.... and I tell her things out of respect more so than because I have to. One thing I like about her is that she doesn't bitch at me, she tells it like it is and doesn't play any games. Great girl.... love her to death.

It is amazing though what a thread about being able to buy a new buggy will spawn. LOL

Take care guys.

Tom

 

[Badkitty]

. I don't always know if there is something other than bills that need to be paid, so by letting her know, I am also making sure that nothing else that may be of importance exsists. Of course I am :whip: though!, but hey there are worse things in life to be! LOL We are in this together.... and I tell her things out of respect more so than because I have to. One thing I like about her is that she doesn't bitch at me, she tells it like it is and doesn't play any games. Great girl.... love her to death.

we do the same.

as for the whole TYPICAL marriage comment i made, more often then not , i see women taking more control then men, aside from the abusive male cases. What i disagree with is why does 1 person need to control most, but thats my ideal world. which would never happen anyway. everyone has the need to control, but women can go longer without sex than men can, so there lies the control ...hence the term **** WHIPPPED lol

 

[FastEddy]

women can go longer without sex than men can, so there lies the control ..

Just beat off on her a few times while shes sleeping, If she doesn't get the hint, move on

 

[SVORay]

Just beat off on her a few times while shes sleeping, If she doesn't get the hint, move on

Damn :OMG:

 

[Plaidfish]

Just beat off on her a few times while shes sleeping, If she doesn't get the hint, move on

LMAO...Man you rule.....I think the same way....don't stress ass....because the down time will soon pass...If she don't put out....she gets Kicked out.....I refuse to be w/ a women that gets blatant about using sex to get what they want.....that's way messed up......

 

[FastEddy]

I refuse to be w/ a women that gets blatant about using sex to get what they want.

In an off handed way thats exactly what I said.
Any person that thinks they can control someone and get away with it has another thing coming. Either a person wants to do something or not. If they CHOOSE to do something FOR or WITH the other person to please them, thats cool as hell, but to use a tool to force someone is just asking for trouble down the line. Resentment is a nasty emotion.

 

[robriguez]

My current GF / fiance is Latina but not like this at all.

I once dated a latina (and her family...because thats how it works) that was very controlling, or tried to be and I absolutely would not stand for it. Every woman in her family absolutely hated me. All the men both admired me and hated me at the same time. They loved the fact that I stood up for myself but hated the fact that I made their lives hell cause they had to deal with the complaining afterwards. I once told her Mother at a house party, "I am an adult. I am a MAN. "MY" Mother doesn't tell me what to do and If YOU ever try to do it again, I will not only walk out of this house but out of your daughters life forever. It will be YOUR fault I leave." You can image how well that went over. I was banned from ever going over there again. lol Fine by me. Her father just sat there in awe.

Just beat off on her a few times while shes sleeping, If she doesn't get the hint, move on

AMEN BROTHAMAN!!!!

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