Well, let me preface this by saying I am a big Jeep fan and have owned a '97 Grand Cherokee and now have an '04 Wrangler Sahara.
I also owned one of the very first Tahoe's (2/2000) of the current body style. It was 2 wheel drive but was fully loaded. I pulled everything from a double jet ski trialer to an 8500 lb boat/trailer combo with no problems. Never saw the dealer once except to have an airbag sensor reprogrammed. Only got rid of the Tahoe last fall as I just was not using it enough.
The '97 GC was also flawless and I only got rid of it as I wanted the Tahoe (for more towing capacity) and the room (third seat option not previosly available).
I now have a '05 Denali. Piece of crap(story for another day), but it must be the luck of the draw. I like the ride, turning radius, quietness and looks, plus it hauls ass with the big optional V8 (they only have V8's), but it just is too soft, too heavy feeling and can't corner well. My 2000 Tahoe definitely, although essentially the same rig, handled better.
As to price, you can get a fairly fully loaded 2WD Tahoe LT (sunroof, DVD for rear, third row seat, leather, tow package, comfort ride package, etc,) for about 33-35 before taxes, out here. Gas prices have softened the prices a bit.
As to the Commander, a good friend is a Jeep club president and he is not sure of what origin that chassis comes from but he thinks it is a South American design as far as a Jeep heritage. The motor and trans are all current GC, so the reliability should be there. I looked at one and was impressed with the room and features for the price.
Durango one the SUV/Truck of the year award when it forst came out (I forgot who was doing the ranking) but they have had their issues since. Heads on the V8 leaking, electrical and ignition problems, etc., but it is one tough truck, especially the 4WD models.
Ford, I like the looks and features of the new Expedition but do not know enough about them to give a reasonable opinion. Not a Ford buyer, anyhow.
As to the others, such as FX45, X3, X5, Tribeca, Acura Rs330, Murano, those are all very, very good SAV's (Sports Activity Vehicles) but if you are looking for a truck based SUV you are best served with the list you are naming above. I do like a lot of the SAV's as they offer a lot for the size and money, and personally like the Volvo and FX45, but I need a real truck cargo/towing capacity and tha SAV category just does not cut it for me. (except maybe the Volvo and Tourag, but they are too pricey for what they are)
The H3, hmmm, GM screwed up here. It shares the Chevy Colorado chassis, motor and trans. My GMC dealer is also a Hummer dealer and we had along discussion with them about the new H3. From the car mags and the dealer input, there are no plans to put a bigger motor in the H3 such as a V6 or small V8, no plans to turbo the I-5 like GM originally proposed for the Colorado and has now scrapped, and the interior room is pitiful. At that price point you would get a tougher and more powerful vehicle in V8 4Wd by going GC Laredo.
I second Eddy's idea of renting some of the models you are most interested in. You are right, it is an investment, especially if you are getting near the 40,000 mark. Since I pay cash for all my cars and only generally keep them 4 years, I am one of those that really just buys by sight and specs, but if it is going to be your daily driver plus the weekend family hauler, plus the handyman project vehicle, then test driving through a rental may be the key.
BTW, VB, Ford owns the controlling share of Volvo, not VW!
