I got a problem.Need help

[nitroking]

OK,Well I'm 15, and my g/f always gets pissed when i buy odds and ends for my Nitro truck.She tells me i spend to much time with them instead of her when the only realy time i spend on them is on the weekend between 10:00pm-2:00am. And usally drive them on Sundays.Well she just asked me tonight to sell all my poop for r/c and spend the $600 to fix my Quad or if i dont got enuff to fix the quad from it all which i prolly wont just sell my stuff amd get out of the hobby for good. Well this is when yous guys come in what shoudl i do should i sell all my r/c stuff and get out of the hobby,Or try and get her isn the hobby with me,or just convince her to let me play with my little kids toys(<what she calls them).

I rwaly like this hobby it is one thing i can do for fun without getting in trouble most of the time(i said most of the time).

Well hope yous guys can help me make my decision.

 

[Skyline Racer]

I'm ur age dude, And good goodness, Girls can be a pain man. Do you really like this girl, because if she can't accept a hobby, She really isnt the right one. Kinda on the jealous side. Keep your stuff, Do what you want with your stuff that you bought. Just my .02

 

[powder_king]

I say ditch the gf. i am 18 and have already found out that the only thing women are are trouble and you can never make them happy. may be a poor attitude towards the subject but thats what i would do.
i would say that if she can't accept your "little kids hobby" which i hardly think it is then maybe it is too bad for her

 

[nitroking]

Yes i realy like her.Yes they are a pain in the ass complain about every little thing.

 

[Diver6127]

if a girl can't appreciate the fact that it makes you happy and thinks she needs to compete with a hobby, she's got some issues.

My wife likes the fact that I have this as a hobby. Says it keeps me out of trouble and happy. She just doesn't like the expenses when I race, but that doesn't make her give me stupid ultimatums like that.

By all means, don't be a complete a-hole and ignore her, but let her know that it's a part of what you are about and what makes you happy.

Word of advice, don't sell your stuff. It'll only make things worse and you might just start to resent her. She's a child. Not worth it. If that was your fiancee or wife, that's a different story

 

[mr_bob]

well I'm 18 and have a g/f for over a year but luckly mine doesn't have a problem for it


but i would try to get her into it who knows she might just be jealous that she can't touch them

but also i would try to spend more time with her and buy her stuff
just so she doesn't feel second place

 

[Ryhton]

Stay in the hobbie dude, if she can't except you having some of your own intrests then there are going to be problems in the future. The fact of it is that at 15 there are going to be a lot more girls coming and going in the future. Keep your toys.

 

[Candyman]

Old man here....37. But I'll say this simply. It won't stop here. She'll ask you to sell your RC's. Then she'll ask you to sell your quad. Then your Xbox. Then who knows what. Sorry, but I have a BIG problem with companions who bitch that we spend more time with our cars than them. Bottom line is that she's doesn't dislike RC. She just wants you to spend all your time with her. I really don't think it matters what hobby you have, she won't like it if. Dude, you're 15. I can honestly say at this point I wouldn't sell ANYTHING for ANY woman EVER. The right woman would understand and accept your hobby.

 

[Diver6127]

Ain't that the truth! My wife supports my hobby. Any true woman won't be insecure about a hobby of yours. She would try to learn more about it so that she can get an understanding of your interests.

Important thing is that she has to be understanding. It won't work if you do all you can for her and then she jsut does what she wants. gotta go both ways and from what I remember, 15 year old girls can't do that. Get the picture?

 

[Rolex]

Girls that young are usually like that. If they don't get 100% of your attention ALL the time, they get jealous. R/C cars are a tremendous enjoyment, and are not little boy toys. If anything, they are BIG boy toys.
Keep an eye on the birthdays, and look at the ages. Most are in their 20s, 30s, 40s, and even a few who are so old they fart dust.
Please don't sell anything you enjoy just to please her. After you've sold it, there will be another problem she'll start with you.
The advise these guys have given you is all from experience, so trust us, enjoy this hobby, and come here for any help or info you need.

 

[AC48]

I'm 16 (fyi), and if she can't accept the fact that these 'toys' make you happy, then theres a problem. Do what you want with your R/C, not what she wants.

 

[rocknbil]

....She tells me i spend to much time with them instead of her when the only realy time i spend on them is on the weekend between 10:00pm-2:00am......

Candyman has hit it right on, especially the part about her getting you to sell everything, except for one thing: young, old, it doesn't matter, many women/girls are on a MAJOR power trip. They'll flash their boobs just because of the rush it gives them, knowing how much control they have over you. If you boil it down to one thing, here's what I hear from women like this:

IF IT'S NOT ABOUT ME, IT SUCKS!!!

You say you like her but what's to like? Oh yeah . . . that . . . well think with your HEAD man . . . the one on your shoulders . . . there are LOTS of pretty women in this world and if you look hard enough you'll even ind one that's happy with you the way you are and won't need to change you to fit you in her purse.

I say dump her, never let someone control who you are. Unless they are right, of course (Self-destructive behavior, for example.)

 

[AC48]

You say you like her but what's to like? Oh yeah . . . that . . . well think with your HEAD man . . . the one on your shoulders . . .

Well said

 

[jon2]

Ok first off, YOU ARE ONLY 15!! Girls will aways be around. There is certainly no reason to let go of a hobby that makes you happy for a girl you will more then likely no be with for the rest of your life. Keep your rides man. A girlfriend will understand your hobbies and not try and change to make her happy. On the same token don't be a jacka$$ to her. SHow her you are interested in her if you really care for her. give her the attention you would as if you first met her and wanted to be with her.

My wife tells me that she doesn't mind me being in the hobby but the cost of it is not anything to desire. She says that a hobby like this is better than spending money on going to the Nudie Bar or Porn. I could really care less for that junk anyway. I am married!

You are young and there will be so many girls that will catch your eye if you let this one go. Let her know that this hobby makes you happy andyou shouldn't have to change for her. She should understand that.

A good woman should be supportive just as you should be to her. If she wants all your attention all the time seems like you will have issues later on.IMO


Hope all goes well man.

 

[Candyman]

I think the summary of all this advice is simple. Keep your stuff. Tell your girl how much enjoyment you get from the hobby. But also let her know that you enjoy her, too. That you think she's special. The reality is that there's plenty of room for both things in your life. There will be give-and-take. There will be times when she needs to let you work on your cars. And there will be times where you will take her shopping or the movies or whatever she likes. I'm sure you understand that. She just needs to, too.

 

[DarthRacer]

I have to ask you two things, are you married? No. Does she have any real control over you? No she dosen't. She is testing to see what she can make and get you to do. Don't be her wipping boy and give in. Waht kind of person asks another to give up their hobby? She should be with a guy who's hobby is drinking and hitting women which I'm sure you are not doing. Be a man and do what YOU want to do. Don't let a GIRL tell you what to do. Maybe you will find a girl that is not threatened by any of your interests that are not her. I think teenage girls want boys who act like puppies and do whatever they want, buy whatever they want, etc. Be your own Dawg (lame I know )

 

[Lessen]

These guys know their stuff Nitroking. You came to the right place with a question like this. The opinions above come from people of all different ages and backgrounds. I just turned 24 and will have been married for only 1 year in May. but you'll notice the overall message is clearly the same. There will be times in you're life where you'll feel that not only do you need to make changes but you'll WANT to. But now isn't the time. At 15 you need to keep doin what your doin. Explore your interests and learn as much as you can about yourself. Women will come and women will go but you'll always be left with yourself.

 

[Buncrana]

My wife dont much care for it but she would never ask me to get rid of my toys. You make time for yourself and time for the woman in your life, that's it. She don't like, kick her to the curb. The wife called my computer my mistress for a while, hinting that I spend too much time on it but she didn't make me get rid of it or even ask. NK, ditch the bitch and find yourself a good woman.

 

[Diver6127]

A good woman will never ask you to give something you love and a good man will never ask a woman to give something up as well.

It's when a man and woman meld together that they learn how to share as well as know what makes their spouse or gf/bf happy. There's no room for insecurities as well as rediculous demands in any relationship.

 

[ZANDOR]

All I have to say #1 R/C's are not TOYS.............................

And #2 If your GF wants you to sell your RC's tell her to pound sand

Stright up Words of wisdom from ZANDOR