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SMaxxin

SMaxxin

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Has a waiter/waitress ever sat down at your table while taking your order?
 
At some of the coffee bars in my area the waitresses sit on your lap. They also take your drink order wearing lingerie/bikinis.
 
Would it bother you if a waiter sat next to your wife to take your order? We were sitting in a booth, my son and myself on one side and my wife on the other, she was sitting about in the middle of the booth. The waiter walks over to take our order and sits right next to my wife.....I didn't say anything but I was pissed about it, wanted to slap him right off of the seat. It was like a slap in the face as far as I was concerned but my wife can't understand why that would upset me.


Am I wrong?
 
It doesn't bother me if the waiter sits next to my wife, and she doesn't care if the waitress sits next to me.
 
vbgagnon said:
Yes, hooters does it all the time but I've seen it at more then a hand full of places.
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I was going to say it has only happened once to me and it was at Hooters.
 
SMaxxin said:
Would it bother you if a waiter sat next to your wife to take your order? We were sitting in a booth, my son and myself on one side and my wife on the other, she was sitting about in the middle of the booth. The waiter walks over to take our order and sits right next to my wife.....I didn't say anything but I was pissed about it, wanted to slap him right off of the seat. It was like a slap in the face as far as I was concerned but my wife can't understand why that would upset me.


Am I wrong?
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Probably sat there because that was the only spot to sit. He would likely have sat next to you if your son was on the other side with your wife.

Supposedly people tip better when the wait staff sits next to you or at your table with you or kneels down to your level rather than standing over you. Makes people feel more comfortable with them on the same level.
 
There is nothing wrong with that at all. Seems as if its your issue. You may want to ask yourself why it bothered yo so much. It may be there is an underlaying issue that needs to be addressed.

It might bother me if he was slipping her the finger. On the other hand, (no pun) if it was a woman I would pony up a huge tip if I had a good view.
 
sweetdiesel said:
At some of the coffee bars in my area the waitresses sit on your lap. They also take your drink order wearing lingerie/bikinis.
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We are hitting this place when I come to visit!:)

I have had that happen to me but its because I know them or the place is like an ole mom and pop restaurant.

My first girlfriend ended up working at a strip club. I visitied her all the time :hehe:
 
i think it depends on where you live, the east coast and mid west thats just the way people are friendly. they don"t mean and disrespect the just want to make your meal pleasent and enjoyable. now on to the sitting down,some people get mad when a guys sits next to thier wife why did he touch here?
should she get mad if a girl did it to you hey which foot is the shoe on ?
 
I see where you are coming from, Maxxin. Personally, I don't like it when they do that simply because I don't like folks getting into my personal space too much to begin with if I don't know them (even more if I do know them!) I don't mind the kneeling down or, at some places around here, they pull a chair to the end of the booth from a nearby table, and that doesn't bother me much.

As for a booth, yeah, I think I would have an issue with some waiter (or even waitress) saddling up next to me or my wife to take our order. Again, it's a personal space issue more than anything, but I understand where you are coming from and see your point.

No, you're not wrong, IMO.
 
I agree with Eddy, nothing wrong with a waiter sitting down next to your woman. Especially since you have your kids there with you. To me, having the kids + wedding band on is a strong signal that she is taken. If she decides to do some flirting with the waiter that is an issue between you and her, not the waiter. He's just doing his job and probably does that to everyone at the restaurant.




Jon we will hit up as many coffee bars as you'd like, the nice thing about them is the drinks they serve keep you "up". lol
 
Well thats the first time a server has ever sat at my table so that in itself was disturbing, I'm more likely to hit him rather than tip him. If he had squatted or pulled a chair to the end of the table no problem, or if she would have at least been all the way in the booth so they wouldn't have been sitting shoulder to shoulder it wouldn't have been as bad.

If I wouldn't have been there I don't think it would have bothered me as much but to do that right in front of me was a sign of disrespect towards me. If the roles were reversed and a women sat next to me it would bother me and I would have asked her to please get up.
 
Monkey Wrench said:
I see where you are coming from, Maxxin. Personally, I don't like it when they do that simply because I don't like folks getting into my personal space too much to begin with if I don't know them (even more if I do know them!) I don't mind the kneeling down or, at some places around here, they pull a chair to the end of the booth from a nearby table, and that doesn't bother me much.

As for a booth, yeah, I think I would have an issue with some waiter (or even waitress) saddling up next to me or my wife to take our order. Again, it's a personal space issue more than anything, but I understand where you are coming from and see your point.

No, you're not wrong, IMO.
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i agree,

they do that at some places here in michigan....i am kinda a jealous person, but it doesn't bother me because he's sitting next to her...for me its as mw stated, dont get into my personal space. i dont know you, & i dont want you that close to me or my family....as far as tips. keep the wife wife & my drinks filled & the tip will be there.
 
They sit with you here too (sometimes).
Things like this don't bother me much. I tend to give off an attitude,
so anything that shouldn't be done, wont.
Lack of respect? Na. Unless he did something flirtatious then you have a gripe.
These people work on tips for the most part, and want to be more friendly and personal (to get a nice tip).
Was he being a jerk like flirting??? If not, don't sweat it bro.
 
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Dude no need to et worked up or let it get to you. There is a couple of restaurants I got to with with my wife and daughter where they pretty much know us and we know them. We're all fine with it and they sit down. Before we moved to Indy my wife and I used to go to Outback just about every friday or saturday night, almost everyone knew us there so when it was a regular waiter or waitress they would come and sit with us, shoot the poop and take our order. I've also been to many high end dinners through work and none of the wait or hostess staff have sat with us unless they were invited. I think it really depends on company. With the family no problem, especially when your a regular. For business, depends but can be acceptable. I've also taken my wife and daughter to places where I am a regular when traveling for work but they have never been. My wife doesn't mind in the least. And one more thing, if some dude is going to sit next to my wife in front of me, I've already thought of at least six different ways to kill him or do significant bodily harm from the time it took him to go from standing to sitting.
 
If he touched her, be annoyed. If he was flirting, be annoyed. If he just sat and it was the only place to be, then be annoyed if you want, but I doubt anything was meant by it.

Personnally, if a guy said/did anything out of line with my wife, she'd kick him in the nuts, then tell me to kill him.
 
If I frequent the restaurant and know everyone, doesn't bother me.

I'm not much on someone sitting at my table to take my order if I don't know them. Don't look at it as them disrespecting me, just get off your lazy ass and get my food. I guess I not much on strangers getting in my space either.

I know they work for tips. Doesn't matter how friendly they are...
Let my coffee cup get empty for very long and it's not much of a tip.
 

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