The spider gear mod is an upgrade to the strength of the differential gears and the way they interact.
The stripping of rims comes from the torque plus the fact that the rim is not all the way tightened onto the hub; not really how the torque is distributed. Any play between hub and rim is enough for the torque to drive the hub like a router bit and round out (strip) the socket on the rim.
Solution: Make sure that the fit of hub to rim socket is snug. This means tighten down the rim onto the hub (but do not over-tighten to the point of cracking the rim).
You might say, "But Sky, I have been doing that." -or "I've already done that."
What some have noticed, and you may not have, is that the nuts used on these axles to hold the wheels on have a tendancy to back themselves off. So, you may have already made sure things are nice and tight....but a little running, and voila, the wheels get loose. Believe me, I'm right there with you. I got them nice and snug, then started doing donuts in loose dirt. It only took about two minutes to have one of the wheels come flying off.
Solution: Apply a little locktite (blue or green) to the portion of the axle that you screw the nut onto. Put the tire on (try not to rub off the locktite). Then tighten down the nut. This should keep the nut from backing off or at least give it more resistance to that tendancy.
I'll leave the actual chatter about spider gears and their advantages to those who have done this mod. I have not, nor do I intend to unless I fry a diff.