2 things..
First, 13t bell, 49t spur is incredible torque on even an S 25. For comparison, a k4.6 is geared with a 17t bell, 47t spur. Before comparing engines, your gear ratio is putting 36 percent more torque/pain through the drivetrain. Add more power yet with .30 and you may be putting around 50% more torque through that drivetrain compared to a typical k4.6 and typical gearing.. Wow...
Second, diesel is right. Half or more of the blown diffs are nothing more than the stock screws backing out and causing slop. And, of course, when you mix torque and gear slop you get pieces. Definitely look into the machine screws.