You guys won't believe this!

[godale03]

Well guys,

I just recieved a call from Best Buy saying that I won two tickets + garage passes, and a meet and greet session with Elliott Sadler. It came with a free catered meal, and everything. All I had to do was drive to Dover which is about 5 hours from here. I called my wife and told her the good news... which she quickly killed.... June 1st is my daughters batisim. Which is also a sore subject because I am not Catholic and she is going to be baptised catholic. So instead of going to Dover for the NASCAR race... I have to go sit in church.

 

[robmob]

Sacrifices.

Welcome to fatherhood.

We all share your pain.

 

[CHICKEN LEG]

Just tell the church your'e going to pray for Elliot, and his family. Then ask them if they could kindly reschedule the babtism. Problem solved.=devil
(J/K)

 

[nitrogator]

welcome to parenthood
i have missed 3 daytona 500's due to something with my 14 or my 2 year old.i keep saying next year next year,well soon will be florida gator football season and then i will go with my 14 year old.i have season tickets and told the wife i wont miss a home game.

 

[WoodiE]

Tell her the kid isn't yours!



-Michael

 

[Lessen]

First of all congratulations on the opportunity. That would have been totally killer bro.

Which is also a sore subject because I am not Catholic and she is going to baptised catholic.

Um... I don't know how much of an issue this is with you but that's something I would have a very hard time swallowing. Matter of fact, I wouldn't swallow it at all because I personally wouldn't have it. Religion can be a very touchy subject within a family and needs to be addressed carefully.

I won't get anymore since it's also a very touchy subject here and I don't want to start something that may throw this thread off the deep end.

Tom - if you want to chat about the subject in PM feel free to shoot me one.

 

[CharliesTheMan]

Hey Tom,
When I had my confirmation, it was scheduled for a certain day by the Bishop in the church. I had family that wanted to come in from out of town, and so they changed it. If your wife wanted to, it would be easy to move the baptism to another mass on the same weekend so that you could go to the race.

 

[robmob]

Tom

If you even hint at wanting your wife to change the baptism of your daughter so you can go to Nascar, you might as well have a box of Kleenex for her and a pillow for yourself since you will be sleeping on the couch for awhile.

Suck it up and forget about the race.

This is an opportunity to gain tons of wife points for future use.

 

[Lessen]

This is an opportunity to gain tons of wife points for future use.

No points to be gained here IMO.

This isn't one of those things you'll ever want to use in order to highlight the good things you've done. I imagine (and I could very well be wrong, I don't know her) that she probably expects you to see this as a no brainer. In her eyes it's not even a choice, so to view it as a good choice is really no better than making the wrong choice.

 

[SMaxxin]

Congrats on winning a great package bro, sorry to hear you won't be able to enjoy it.

No points to be gained here IMO.

I know you feel strongly on this subject but put religion aside and there are a ton of points to be made! He might not like the idea but he obviously agreed to it before he won the tickets so he would now try to cancel for the wrong reason IMO.

 

[robmob]

You better believe it's a no brainer.

She now knows you have given up the Nascar thing for this. As long as you did not complain at all, there is a few points to be gained. If you complained or even mention the fact you have to gave up Nascar, kiss any points good by and prepare for the cold shoulder.

Trust me, I went through 2 baptisms with my kids and felt like I was being kicked in the junk both times. I smiled and went through them without a complaint. Just keep your mouth shut, put a smile on your face, give the tickets away and make the most of the day.

 

[CharliesTheMan]

I agree, I think changing it is a really bad idea. Personally, just because of my faith, I couldn't even imagine considering changing it. The baptism could make a difference in her entire life, and I wouldn't dare want to change that for something such as that, but I know that he doesn't see religion the same way as I do, so I was just letting him know that it could be changed.

 

[Rolex]

Wow, what bad timing. I'm actually hoping that the day is a total washout and your tickets will be reissued for another race.
You've GOT to be there for the wife and little one. Some things in life you can't put off or reschedule.

 

[CharliesTheMan]

couldn't have said it better myself, and that would be perfect if something happened and the whole week's events got put off for some reason and you could go another weekend.

 

[godale03]

Thanks guys....

You guys are right... was a no brainer. Going to the race over the batisim was not even a thought. Tough thing to swallow, but that is life I guess. I don't know if there will be any points gained for me... my wife would expect me to choose the batisim over the race without so much as a thought. When I told her about the race tickets we... and I used we.. had won, and without even skipping a beat she said we would not be going... because the batisim was that day. No talk of rescheduling ever came up.


Lesson... I would definitely not consider myself a religious person. In fact I believe I am more agnostic than anything else. Not that there is anything wrong with being religious... I'm just not. My wife on the other hand is also not religious but she is doing this for her grandmother, and the fact that our daughter will be going to Catholic school some day. I'm ok with the Catholic school, it really is a good education.. but I don't believe she should be baptised catholic because of it... I am pretty sure the school just wants our money, over pumping out more Catholics. Anyway... I just figured my daughter could decide on her own one day what religion she would believe in and what denomenation she would choose to be baptised in. I lost that battle, and now because of it... a lost opportunity of a lifetime. Like Robmob said... "Welcome to Parenthood", and the sacrifices that come along with it.

Tom

couldn't have said it better myself, and that would be perfect if something happened and the whole week's events got put off for some reason and you could go another weekend.

Well guys... that would have been great... but the tickets were not transferable, and so I had to decline the entire event. So... Bestbuy just went down to whoever was number 2 on list and offered them the package. Even if it were a washout.... someone else would still be going in my place. What a bummer. You are right... family always comes first, and I love my wife and kids more than anything else... including a once in a lifetime opportunity.

 

[CharliesTheMan]

Well godale I'm not trying to get into a religious debate at all, and I really hope I don't sound like a know it all, but I thought this might ease your brain a lil bit. A few years ago I went through the process of confirmation and learning a lot about religion and that kinda stuff. One thing that I learned was, the baptism is a lot more of a Christian thing than a Catholic thing. The catholics believe, or at least the ones that were teaching me about the stuff, who were the priest and the bishop, that the baptism is simply a Christian thing. And then later, during confirmation, is when the person makes the decision on their own IF they want to be Catholic or not. I was baptised in the methodist church, and when I started learning about the Catholic stuff I was surprised to learn that the Catholics, as well as many other denominiations, consider the baptism to be kind of a Christian non specific thing that isn't specific to what church you were baptised in, instead of forcing one denomination on someone. I hope that made a lil bit of sense, and I hope that I didn't offend you or sound like I was just trying to start an argument.

 

[godale03]

No offense taken at all my friend. Religion is a very personal choice and means different things to everyone. Your probably right... Baptism is probably more of symbolic deal than anything else. With my beliefs, being what they are... I just don't feel right standing up there proffessing to raise my daughter in the ways of the catholic church... I mean I may not be a religious man... but I don't like lying, and if I agree to do what they are asking me to do, then that would be lying. I will be there on that Sunday, and I will put my best smile on, and just roll with it. We have some good food waiting for us afterwards so I have something to look forward to... right! LOL

Tom

 

[Rolex]

In fact I believe I am more agnostic than anything else.

Did you hear about the Dyslexic Agnostic who was also an insomniac?

He would lay awake at night wondering if there was a dog.

 

[h8z2luze]

Did you hear about the Dyslexic Agnostic who was also an insomniac?

He would lay awake at night wondering if there was a dog.

lol funny stuff

 

[godale03]

Rolex... you always keep me laughing!!