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[itsalifeworthliving]

Just A Meiger Thought?.?

He's lost them alright, it's a matter of whether it's permanently or not...

I got a call from him after school let out today, wanted to know if he could start staying after school for tutoring. And when I picked him up, his English teachre was there to let me know he'd already made up the missing work, made up a quiz, and finished his homework for the night. Said he'd made up enough work in one session to bring his grade up a letter. Even got a 100% on that make up quiz...

That's what get's me so upset, he can do it, and obviosly well if he just puts forth the effort!

He's a far cry from a disciplin problem, he just needs to be reminded that laziness and work don't mix, and there are consequences if it does.

hey fix.. did ya ever think the kids just bored? it sounds like its just too easy for him. i mean, i know damn well those teachers pretty much hand out the answers just as you stated. but a kids mind just likes to be tested. you said it yourself. he is not a disceplinary problem and he can easly make up all his work after school AND BRING UP A GRADE. i have a mild learning disabilty, but my yuonger brother of only 15 months was like a prodigy child, but he was horible in school up intill we were in the 10 or 11 grade. my dad and the school didnt know what to do with him. he just wouldnt do his work. everybody thought he was lazy. were i was getting all a's and b's he was pretty much failing everything, but would ace tests and make up an intire semester in a weeks time. my father had to force the school district to put him in excelled classes and everything changed for him. he just wasn't challenged and got bored easy. becouse of my dad, he graduated with a full scholarship and is now practicly an engineer. just a thought.. i know its easy for us that dont have kids to teach those that do have kids the "right" way, so I'm not doing that, just conveying my experiances..try not to get too frustrated with him. he sounds like a good kid. and by all means you sound like a great parent that is truly concerned about there child and i commend you on that..THERE ARE SO MANY PARENTS OUT THERE THAT JUST LET THERE KIDS RUN 'raggid' AND HOPE THE SCHOOL DISTRICTS DONT 'fail' THEM!! it awsome that you served our country, came home and got right back to the kids and fam..evan tho it cost you a "mint" for those rc's!!HOORA!!

 

[fix14wd]

You know, that thought has crossed my wifes mind once or twice. I'm not so sure, it's just hard for me to tell with him. I can see where that might be the case with math and english, but science and civics/history...I dunno. Civics especially, it's like pulling teeth to get him to do anything fr that class. If he were acing tests like your brother did, I'd be more inclined to think maybe he was bored.
He's on the young side too though, he's in 8th and is only 13, won't be 14 until mid July. Maybe he'll snap out of it with a little maturity, in 6 months a teen can change quite a bit. I guess time will tell.

 

[Plaidfish]

I have another idea on punishments...it should fit the crime.....taking away priviledges only makes smart kids think of ways to sneak around your rules...ie take away the video games and he trades all of his comic books for a PSP....sneaks around with it and feels like he's gotten over (this is just an example)....enforcing in his/her mind how to work around the system...ground em and they sneak out or just sit and do nothing, neither of which is doing them ANY good.....I found the best way to teach my daughter was to make her do MORE homework if she is not completing the regular assignments on time.....if I get a call or note from the teacher I will double her assignments....I'm lucky enough to have a teacher that posts her homework on a website (that all teachers have access to I believe) so I can check what she needs to do.....or use it as a refference to make additional work for my daughter......I found this to work very well....she knows not doing homework now will give her more in the future.....after a few times of that she got the message and just does the work as it's assigned.......I use grounding for not listening to me and chores for not being a nice/polite person.....kids can be mean to each other and I let my daughter know when she is being mean or disrespectful by making her do more chores, like wash MY laundry as well as hers.....clean my bathroom and basically be my maid when she gets out of line.....she's 10 now and also in the gifted classes, I wanted to be sure I had a good foundation of parental control before she gets to the terrible teens and I think this has been doing just that...I was a punished child by grounding and belt whippings and I look back and see it made me resent my parents for years....I would rather use intellect in my punishment rather than brute force if don't need to....this not only develops your kids understanding of consequences but it keeps you from being the executioner all the time....I can laugh with my daughter while she is being punished with chores, it strengthens our relationship since I can explain to her (while she is doing them) and it can be a learning experience instead of a lesson in fear......I am not against physical punishment by any means, I just don't understand how it can be some parent's ONLY method of discipline......