Mother-in-laws

[digger]

Guess I'm venting. Or airing out my dirty laundry. However you want to say.

Wrote in another post that I have been having a hard time lately. Don't mind helping people out, but I hate being taken advantage of. Here goes.

My brother-in-law, which has never worked a day in his life, goes in the hospital. I don't mind helping out, honest. Ol lady stays down there 6 weeks? I pay the motel bill, take about $1500 out of the savings for other things. Never say a thing about it. I'm taking 3 or 4 hundred out of the savings every 4 or 5 days. Did I mention I hate my brother-in-law? Did I mention he pulled a knife on my old lady and I did nothing? Did I mention she will still wipe his sorry ass if he asks????

Well, this post is about mother-in-laws. I'm just wondering what the worst thing that your mother-in-law has did to you? Mine is a real worthless bitch. Do me a favor and post the worst thing yours has done. If ya get close, I'll tell ya what happened. Hopefully some of you guys can cheer me up. Try anyway.

 

[FastEddy]

I have the best Mother In-law in the world.
Doesn't speak a word of English and lives 10,000 miles away.

My phone bill runs 100-200 a month but its worth every penny.
What more could a guy ask for.

 

[digger]

Sounds like one hell of a mother-in-law bro!!!

 

[FastEddy]

Why don't you try to make nice and give her a gift?
Lets say a ........ Black Cat

 

[SMaxxin]

When I first started dating my wife my mother in law hired two people to kick my ass. The first person she asked said ok, so he took half the money up front and was going to collect the other half after it was done. Turns out it was a good friend of mine and he bought a case of beer that my mother in law paid for LOL. The second person was not a friend but he came up a little short in the ass kicking department....She really hated me after that. That was 16 years ago....It's all good now, She learned to like me and I learned to put up with her.

 

[Plaidfish]

My EX-mother in law was/is a BEOTCH.....
when we (me & ex) moved back to FL from NY she said to stay w/ her...I said No and she twisted my ex into making us stay there....I said as long as I pay half the rent/bills and I bought groceries (she bought all junk food...yuck) anyway I found very quickly that my NYC skills in retail buying and Bike Messenger and I wasn't going to be a Sales rep for a snowboard company in S FL would pay well I started my own business doing light carpentry/painting & roof repair...yes I got licensed and insured and started a corporation w/ a few others so we could be legal and not have issues....well I was paying ALL the bills by this time and buying groceries for me and my ex and our new baby......I had 3 days where I had no work but had a bunch of jobs lined up for the folloing month...she breaks down the door starts yelling and screaming that if I didn't have work to do I better go get a new job....mind you I had saved 4000 bucks in 3 months while starting a new company and buying tools,,,I was riding a bicycle 13 miles each way to meet one of my partners so my ex could have a car for emergencies.....I was hoping I would have enough saved within another month to buy a truck for work......she came home that nite and kicked me out because I didn't get a job at burger King like she said to do.....so I went and rented an apartment that nite and went to go get my family and bring them there and she starts whining about having to pay her own bills after not having to for 3 months and only paying half for the 3 before that.....then when I said I wouldn't give her the following months rent since she kicked me out she turned into a real psycho and calls her ex (my ex's step father) to come and kick my ass cause I hit her ( which was an absolute lie ) my ex tried to explain to her step father what happened and he was so drunk he tried to take a shot at her....well I ended up just bear hugging the guy til he went limp and then the BEotch threw a pan at me.....I scooped the family out and went to our place......and this woman still 8 years later can't comprehend why I don't trust her or let her help out by watching my kid when I have her w/ me........but both of them are pretty upset w/ choices they made because once again in my life I went from having nothing to making good money and being able to do things neither of them will ever be able to....

 

[Revo Rancher]

Quite the story, Plaid, quite teh story. Sounds like you made all better decisions.

I hate to say it, but I have no gripes about my in-laws. I love them as much as my own family (very much) and we do almost everything together. When people ask me how come my marraige seems to work, I always tell them that getting along well with your in-laws has a lot to do with it.

My in-laws are from Missouri so they always have best of sayings about things in life. Always cracks me up.

 

[Plaidfish]

Quite the story, Plaid, quite teh story.

being a parent now I can read volumes into this statement and the pentameter used, but I choose not to make assumptions.....LOL....

 

[CorradoPsi]

my ex-mother-in-law was just as bad if not worse than my ex. shes a drunk, pothead, and worthless for caring for herself let alone a child. she totaled her car drunk driving about 2 years ago, and ended up in rehab a year ago. when my son used to go there, he was allowed to run barefoot in the garage around all sorts of tools and car/motorcycle parts. I've witnessed her use countless men for places to stay for a few months or to buy her things she wants (she moves about every 6 mos). she would never tell the truth about anything, no matter how insignificant. I'm just thankful that i was never in a position like Plaid where i would have to live with her.

 

[Revo Rancher]

Ahhh, Plaid, you took it out of context. The last part of that first paragraph tells it all. You have had quite a remarkable life and the stories that come from it are very interesting. In some ways I would never want anyone to have a bad day in their life, but hearing you relate your experiences is always interesting.

Now, if I told you it was an interesting tale, I could see you being offended. Context is everything.

 

[Plaidfish]

when I met mine she seemed normal...in fact she has a degree in Psychology and is a social worker of some sort dealing w/ drug addicts and abused women....and to unwind at the end of her day she goes home and drinks 1/2 bottle of wine and smokes joints til she passes out......I can't say much about the latter since I have inhaled my fair share in life as well but DAMN she had one hell of a habit when I lived there.....I felt like a peepee asking her to not smoke around my daughter in her own house so I'd just take her to the pool and chill out for a while.....

oh no I didn't mean that in a bad way revo.....it was more like when my mom found out I was living on th estreets in NY and I'd talk to her every so often through my aunt....I'd hear the hesitation in her voice when I'd tell her stuff I dealt w/.....

 

[NCNitro]

I have no complaints at all with my in laws. At first they thought I was just a phase there daughter was going through. Long hair, tattoos, not to mentioned I was pretty pickled on Jack the first time I met them. But they have treated me like a member of there own family right from the very beginning. I guess I just got real lucky, my wife gets along great with my parents, and I get along great with hers.

 

[digger]

Well guys, I get along with my ex in-laws. Called my ex mother-in-law the other day. I said something about being her ex son-in-law. She told me that she wasn't the one that divorced me. Said to call anytime. Made me feel pretty good. Me and the ex wife don't talk, so I call her mother to check on my son.

Here is mine. Wanting to get another house. Last fall, I decide to get pre-approved for a loan. The day before we go the wife says I have something to tell you.... "Remember when Mom filed bankruptcy? Well she got a few credit cards in my name." Well we got approved for a loan anyway. Didn't find a place we could agree on.

Fast foward to about 3 weeks ago. Phone rings and the wife answers it. When I ask who it was, she tells me it is about her Mom's credit cards but it has been taken care of. Couple of hours later... About 15 minutes before I have to go to work.... She says, "I have something I need to tell you." Wife is filing bankruptcy because her Mom can't pay off the credit cards that are in her name! Said payment is $400 a month!!!! I flipped. How much would a person have to have for the minimum payment to be that much?
Next day I "call in drunk to work." Throw one hell of an idiot fit. Called her Mom 3 or 4 times and cuss her, tell her what I think of her. It was bad. Wife has to go to work and took enough money to stay in a motel just in case I tell her not to come home. Next day mother-in-law is in the hospital. Heart, anxiety attack, I don't know. Honest guys I was never near her.

It's not over yet, just kinda cooled down a bit. I told her if she didn't take care of it she could move in with them. I'm tired of working my ass off to support the deadbeats! Between her Mom and her brother, I'm always broke. I'm not putting up with much more of it.

 

[Diver6127]

I usually don't hear a thing when any woman is ranting about someting when the r/c's come out.

 

[Revo Rancher]

Digger, if I read your post correct, your first wife opened credit cards in her name for her mom to use, and got you into credit probelms, and then the second and current wife did the same thing and now wants to bail out her mom from paying her obligations by she, your wife, declaring BR? First of all, they just changed the BR laws and this type of debt might/may not be disposed of by BR anymore.

Also, your wife's debt is your debt, so be careful about even considering BR. Ask your wife to work a second job as she went behind yoru back and got you involved in this mess, and have her mom pay each month as much as she can to help pay it off too. BR will tank your credit for YEARS to come.

 

[HeartBreak]

I have a bit of a story to tell myself, altho, it's not quite an ex-mother-in-law story... But darned close.

A few years ago, I dated this one woman. I started seeing her around 1998 till about 2003. Well, during that time, I had driven back and forth to her house, 40 miles each way (why, you ask? well, you'll see at the end). Each time I was there, I had to put up with her being sweet one minute, then psycho the next five. Especially when her mother was home from work - whoa nurse (which, oddly enough, her mom works in a hospice as a nurse).

Anyways, over the course of the 5 years, it nearly grew to a wedding scenario. I mean, within a week of the bells. A few days before the event, I picked up the phone at her house, while she was outside tending her livestock (two horses, a pair of goats, a cow, some geese, a couple dogs, some cats). On the other end was a guy claiming to be her dad. Noticing that he sounded rather young for 60, I decided to mess with her a little, and possibly get the truth...

After a little 'discussion' (at an elevated volume), I found out that, and here's the shocker; it was a boyfriend, who had a girlfriend... I ended up leaving the house right then and there - luckily that day, I didn't have any of my hobby stuff at her house. I day or two later, I get the kiss off email (not even enough guts to talk to me on the phone).

Yes, you read right; she was into other couples and women - nice, eh?

A few months later, I talked to a buddy in law enforcement (who shall remain nameless), and they told me that they came across a booking folder for her. Assault on her own mother, breaking her arm with a baseball bat.

The moral of the story; I am DARNED glad that all heck broke loose a week before the wedding, even though her house was just down the road from a good track, not to mention on 3 acres worth of land (had my own little area that I'd made into a bash area).

The only perk to the whole breakup; I don't have a child with her (no offense guys), so I don't have to put up with her for 18 or so years.

Since then, I've gained a real dislike for horses... And, now ya know where the screen name comes from, lol.

edit; I failed to describe the almost-mother-in-law... Simply put, she was drunk more oft than not. She would make notes of anything I owned. My guess; so she could sell what she thought I wouldn't miss for her habits.

 

[digger]

Haven't been on much, last couple of days.

Revo, It is my current wife. Her mother went behind her back? And got credit cards. Now she won't pay them.

Guess all of us older guy have some horror stories to tell.