Girlfriend Stuff.

[JohnnyOctopuss]

I'll make it brief but I'd like your input.

Me and my girl (who has Asperger's )started dating and I fell for the girl hard. 5 months into our relationship I noticed something was way off and she wouldn't tell me.

Eventually it got with the emotional distance that I had to look at her phone (she had a flip phone for her primary and a smart phone for a wifi phone).

Come to find out she was messaging many other men and women.

Left her.

She came begging for me back. I came back.
All she had was a flip phone for the rest of the time.

Now today she gets a smart phone.
She says she's changed .

Idk how I can trust this knowing she has low impulse control.

What are the chances she does this again?
Would you trust it?

 

[ferrebee88]

I think it depends on how much she likes that 50lb bag of gummy worms.

 

[Suburban_Hooligan]

I'll make it brief but I'd like your input.

Me and my girl (who has Asperger's )started dating and I fell for the girl hard. 5 months into our relationship I noticed something was way off and she wouldn't tell me.

Eventually it got with the emotional distance that I had to look at her phone (she had a flip phone for her primary and a smart phone for a wifi phone).

Come to find out she was messaging many other men and women.

Left her.

She came begging for me back. I came back.
All she had was a flip phone for the rest of the time.

Now today she gets a smart phone.
She says she's changed .

Idk how I can trust this knowing she has low impulse control.

What are the chances she does this again?
Would you trust it?

100%. she found a way to justify it once, she'll do it again, only the second time it'll be easier cause the path is already paved.
i could go off on an entire "red pill" "manosphere" "MGTOW" diatribe over this BS so ill just stop here.

get some dignity and have some GD self respect.

 

[Mrgoodwrench35]

100% she found a way to justify it once, she'll do it again, only the second time it'll be easier cause the path is already paved.
i could go off on an entire "red pill" "manosphere" "MGTOW" diatribe over this BS so ill just stop here.

get some dignity and have some GD self respect.

Agreed. People dont change. They just fine tune their BS. Just my .02

 

[xjtorc]

Idk how old you are but dating is supposed to be fun, not stressful. If it’s stressful after 5 months, imagine what 5 years will rack up.

I’m sure you’re still attached, hence this post but you need to put yourself out there/get yourself out there and find another one who doesn’t have a flip phone and treats you better. If I could re-live my 20s (the years I was dating)….man…I had fun lol.

 

[zeus r/c]

I'll make it brief but I'd like your input.

Me and my girl (who has Asperger's )started dating and I fell for the girl hard. 5 months into our relationship I noticed something was way off and she wouldn't tell me.

Eventually it got with the emotional distance that I had to look at her phone (she had a flip phone for her primary and a smart phone for a wifi phone).

Come to find out she was messaging many other men and women.

Left her.

She came begging for me back. I came back.
All she had was a flip phone for the rest of the time.

Now today she gets a smart phone.
She says she's changed .

Idk how I can trust this knowing she has low impulse control.

What are the chances she does this again?
Would you trust it?

Hell no vant trust it at all do it once thry do it again

 

[Doom!]

I'm not as forgiving. You get one shot, don't screw it up. Life is to short to waste on people who use you.

 

[Ramp addict]

I'm 61 and been around the block. My response is "ya sure".
My advice is find someone who hasn't already proven they can't be trusted. The second phone is gone because she doesn't want you going through it.

 

[HPIguy]

Once you break trust, it's rare it's ever fully earned back. As a famous man once said; "Love shouldn't be hard."

 

[Warby]

 

[racerEX]

Plural

 

[Tunedfrog]

First off my hats off to you for tolerating Asperger, that can be brutal especially in a social setting.
As far as her phone is concerned, have you ever thought that maybe her smart phone is outside conversation and
she handles her disease a little better?
Has any of the message's been for hookups?
Only you can determine whether or not you want to trust her.
Every body needs to be forgivin' once in a while and get a second chance.