Aside from the shrink tubing option (which is awesome BTW...thanks Christian), you could try "tightening" the female connector. The main reason they come off is due to metal fatigue and a phenomena (can't remember the name) that is caused by hi frequency vibration (the kind that a motor at 40000rpms would generate).
Anyway, back to the non-soldering solution. Take a pair of needle nose pliers. Place the open end of the female connector into the tip of the pliers, so that the flat surface is against the face of one side of the pliers. Then apply pressure by squeezing the pliers closed. Not too far, you don't want to pancake the connector. Just enough to force the curled under portion of the connector to curl a liitle tighter and make the opening in the female connector smaller.
This should give you better fit of the connector (a tighter fit) and thus make it less likely to slip off. Couple this idea with either the shrink tube idea or the zip tie idea mentioned earlier and you won't need to worry about solder and removing it should you need to disassemble the EZ Start motor assembly at a later date.